All posts filed under: Advice

Relationship & Love Advice 101

(From someone’s who’s never been in one) I recently read this book called “Attached” by Rachel Heller (which I highly recommend) and I now firmly believe I am a fully qualified counselor for relationships. Despite never being in a romantic relationship myself, I thought I came up with some pretty darn good advice that hopefully, I can take myself when (or if) the situation eventually occurs. 1. Be unapologetic about who you are. A no brainer (duh), but you shouldn’t be changing yourself for anyone, no matter how attractive they may be. Be authentic to who you are, and you’ll attract the like-minded. Don’t like football? Then disagree! Do you get easily attached? Then don’t pretend you’re unaffectionate! If they aren’t interested in you, then at least you know they’re not worth your time because you were being yourself. Own your quirks and passions, girl. 2. Communication is key. Literally, so freaking essential to any good partnership. Linking on with my last point, know what you want from a relationship and tell it to your …

Human Construction of Time

Who created time? Who decided that time was a necessary function of human society? The first device created to measure time was invented in ancient Egypt in 1500 BC (thanks, wiki). But what about before that? Were people aware of time as a concept? Time is nonetheless, extremely convenient for our world today. Without it, we wouldn’t know when to show up to work, when to meet our date, or when our favorite TV series starts. Yet when you ponder on the concept of time, it becomes hard to describe. Evidence proving the past existed is created through memories, photographs or artifacts. While the future remains non-existent at all. Imagine explaining how the past and future work to someone who has never heard of time. We could say that the past is events that have occurred before this moment, whilst the future consists of events happening after this moment. But what do both these explanations have in common? They use the present as a pinpoint to define the past and future. So in essence, the …

Discovering Your Passion & Holding Onto It

Isn’t it quite ironic to have a fear of professionally pursuing your passion? The question struck me somewhere in the midst of my freshman year of college. I frequent this thought often, not obsessively but concerningly, because is there really such thing as it being too late? I began contemplating the irony as I was realizing what my passion truly was, those times where the amount of praise I was receiving from my professors regarding my writing overwhelmed me, my body instantly captivated by this inexplicable feeling of pride and happiness. There is no better feeling than being commended for successfully accomplishing something that involves your passion, that one thing you always wholeheartedly put yourself into. I was told that my writing was powerful enough to “inspire, influence and ignite,” words I would have never personally used to describe the one thing that I, ironically, took the most pride in. I have always been fearful of being too cocky, that taking pride in my writing would get me scoffed and laugh at by people who …

We’re More Than This

I received a text from a boy that I was talking to, obviously who had consumed a few too many alcoholic beverages. Mind you, we were talking for merely one week, and somehow he had the audacity to say this. What he wrote made me feel absolutely disgusted like my worth was determined by one thing only. “Come over and have sex with me”. Is this the new lingo for flirting? That’s meant to be a flattering compliment to girls? I read that message and felt a wave of anger run through me. So is this what I mean to you? Simply a body that can be used for your own physical pleasure? I ripped into him because blatantly, I know I’m more than that – I know my worth runs much deeper than what you see with the naked eye. I’m here to tell you that you’re not your body. You are not the gap between your thighs, the pimples on your chin or the color of your eyes. You are not how flat …

Saying Goodbye To a Friend

I walk my friend to her car, preparing for the ever-familiar sting of watching her leave. I’m saying goodbye to her for another six weeks, concluding only a short blissful weekend spent together after long months apart. But what follows is unusual – and I find that it has been happening more frequently – there’s less pain when we pull away from the hug, and as I walk away I don’t feel the anxious need to turn around and verify that she’s really disappeared into the night. I don’t love her any less than I did on the evening of our first significant farewell (the night before I left for University; embarrassingly full of tears) – if it’s even possible, I love her more. But something in each of us has shifted. After years of what can only be defined as cursory visits, we both share an understanding that nothing will change following this separation, just as everything remained the same in the wake of our last. Long distance, long term, friendships. Perhaps not as …

10 Things To Remember Daily

1. You’re doing great. I think we get caught in the mindset that everything is turning to shit, that nothing is going our ways and that basically, we’re incompetent. I recently listened to a podcast by Stephanie Yu and it said to look at each day as an ‘episode’ of your life – like a TV series. At the end of a very dramatic episode of your favorite show, we’re usually so excited to see what’s coming up next and how the characters will overcome their current problems. Well, it’s same as your life – another day, another episode, but somehow things will work out, no matter how horrible this current episode is. 2. No one really knows what they’re doing. What is life about? Heck, nobody knows and we’re all just trying to figure out this mess along the way. There is no ‘right path’ to follow, and even if we do follow it; it doesn’t guarantee the expected outcome. Social media is such a perpetrator for instilling the idea that everyone is has …

Lessons I Learned by Living Alone

Living by yourself is scary. Moving halfway around the world is downright petrifying. Living by yourself and moving halfway around the world is just crazy. This year, I did all of the above and lived to tell the tale. I have stories upon stories to tell about late nights under the shadow of a castle and early morning coffee runs in Italy. I hiked my way across Scotland and learned how to pack two weeks worth of clothing in a carry-on bag because that’s all the airline allowed. I’ve learned so much this past year but I’ve narrowed it down to a few crucial lessons I’ve picked up along the way: It’s alright to miss home. It’s okay to want to call your parents more than your friends. Savour their voices as you listen to them talk about their day and how uneventful their week was. Agree when your mother talks about how bitter her coffee was that morning or how horrendous weekend traffic can be. Not everything is going to be a grand story. …