That’s what my friend Bree described it as to me. The feeling of being full. And I believe that’s what we all strive for in the end – acceptance and becoming content with the present.
The funny thing is most people never reach this point of being ‘full’. We stretch and pinpoint this notion further and further into the future. When we gain our ideal job, when we earn enough money, when we are traveling, when we meet our soul mate. But, as weird as it sounds, the past and future don’t exist at all. We only have this moment – the present – right now. So essentially, we have everything we need to be happy or ‘full’ in this moment (since that’s all there is) once we learn to accept our current life situation.
I don’t have the best job or earn vast amounts of money. I don’t have the coolest or best clothes. I’m not a size zero. I’m not the smartest person and I don’t have perfect grades. I could go on for eons about what I lack in life right now.
But for some strange reason, I am happy and so god damn satisfied with everything in this moment. I’ve realized that I actually do have everything I need right now, especially an abundance of love. The close relationships I have with my family and friends have kept me grounded whilst making me realize that I am so lucky.
Imagine that you have everything you want or need right now. How does it feel? How do you act? How do you carry out your daily life? Pretending that you already have all these things manifests into a reality, yet it helps you realize that we already are all those things right now. And this is what I believe allows us to become ‘full’.
What has helped me reach this stage //
I’ve tried to incorporate around 5-10 minutes every day for the last three weeks and boy has it made a difference. It helps me to balance my thoughts – sort them into productive and non-productive. Throughout the day, I overthink less, worry less, stress less and am basically just more at peace with the present.
Whenever I catch myself picking apart my flaws, I stop for a minute and instead try to find what I can be grateful for. For me, usually that is stopping unnecessary nitpicking with my acne, and then replacing that with gratitude for my health, my body, and my smile. But then also extending that beyond psychical aspects and acknowledging how lucky I am for the close relationships I have, an education, a roof over my head. I know it’s a cliché to say, but we honestly are so ridiculously lucky to be living the life we do (anyone that is reading this right now is privileged in some way).
Especially at past mistakes!! I used to dwell on, lament, and feel so much guilt for stupid things I’ve done in the past. But honestly, we’re tiny specks in the universe and our mistakes aren’t as serious as we make them out to be. Laugh at your bad decisions and then realize that without them you would not be the person you are today. Be proud of and own your mistakes – some of them will become awesome, rebellious stories to your children some day.
Knowing it’s all going to be okay
Life has this funny thing of always working out in the end. Have faith in the universe! When it decides to throw you shit, know that something better is to come out of it.
Everything is a lesson, a blessing or both.
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