To the hopeless romantics mixed up in ‘hook up’ culture, we’ll make it.
Being someone who wants something serious in a generation full of one night stands and hook-up apps is tough. Catching feelings seems to be outdated and ‘no strings attached’ seems to be the thing to do.
So what do you do when hooking up isn’t your style, but you can’t seem to find someone to take you seriously?
That person is coming, and they’ll be worth it.
We live in a generation where people are praised because they like your selfie on Instagram, on don’t take five hours to text you back. A person nice enough to hold a door open, or give you a compliment is seen as marriage material. While those are all great qualities, is that really what we’re settling for?
Has our generation become so afraid of attachment and ‘real’ feelings and relationships that getting someone who gives you the time of day is seen as winning the lottery?
Have we really lost what it means to value and love someone so much that we’ll go for the person who comments on our Instagram picture instead of the person who never fails to tell us how beautiful we are every day?
You are seen as clingy or needy if you enjoy someone’s company and want to spend more time with them. We are afraid to tell people we miss them, for fear of coming off too strong.
What’s so wrong about letting the person you love, know you care about them? Shouldn’t the idea of being on someone’s mind make you happy?
I’m a hopeless romantic and I love being one.
I love sending sweet good morning texts to the person I love. I love celebrating anniversaries and planning our next adventures. I love showing off the person I’m with and telling everyone how lucky I am to have them.
Call me lame. Call me whatever you want. But is wanting to be loved and reciprocate that love not what we all want? We are so desperate to be liked that we’ll take any appreciation we can get.
Catching feelings, waiting for the ‘one’ may seem like a journey that’s never going to come. Especially in a generation where picking up your bar tab is seen as an invitation into your bedroom.
But it gets better. Don’t change who you are to fit into society’s trend. Don’t settle for the person who thinks the only way into your soul is through undressing you.
Wait for the person who remembers how you take your coffee, and knows when you need one. Wait for someone who doesn’t need a specific day of the year to show you how much they appreciate you. Wait for the person who is willing to work and grow with you.
Love isn’t scary.
To be loved and to love back, is a feeling unlike any other.
Don’t apologize for wanting that.
And don’t settle for someone who doesn’t know how to give it to you.
You are not weird, or different, you are human.
You are not hard to love,
Or picky, or uptight.
You are just waiting for the right person,
To give your heart to.
Don’t give up.
Romance isn’t dead,
It just takes time.
© 2017 Reef Magazine