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What Is > Should Be

Resisting the present moment seems to be a part of the human condition that we can’t – or shouldn’t – shake off. We constantly feel the need to do more, to have more, to be more – and right now is never enough.

Resistance typically arises when “what is” does not line up with what we think “should be.” Whether it be the city you live in, your career trajectory, or anything else you have a vision for, it is our thoughts about a current situation that can make it seem like a problem rather than just… what it is.

Embracing the present is the art of letting go of what you think life “should be” in favor of where you are right now. It is a powerful act that, while challenging at first, helps you to create space for a life that you love, and to better cope with things that are out of your control.

“Letting go isn’t about having the courage to release the past; it’s about having the wisdom to embrace the present.” – Steve Maraboli

While counterintuitive to some, active dissatisfaction with the present will not create a path to a brighter future. Resistance essentially means that you’re pulling yourself back instead of moving forward, and inviting in pain over joy.

It is only through full acceptance of the present moment that happiness and clarity can be achieved. Through this acceptance, you can make your current situation start working for you, rather than against you.

“Showing up fully exactly where you are is the fastest way to get to where you want to go.” – Marie Forleo

An important aspect of being engaged with the present moment is the understanding that everything is transient: nothing in life lasts forever. While this might make you break out in hives or want to curl up under a homemade fort for the rest of your life, knowing that everything is in constant flux can actually be very liberating. It will allow you to make the most of where you are now, and be more at ease when change arises, whether you consider it favorable or not.

As cringe-worthy as it may sound, only you have the power to create a life that you love, and that truly comes from the way you face circumstances as they arise. Let that empower you rather than frighten you.

Here are a couple helpful resources you can check out for more information:

Video: Marie Forleo discusses engaging with the present in this inspiring video.

Book: Eckhart Tolle has influenced millions of people with his teachings on The Power of Now.

Words by Tatiana Elghossain
 // Photography by Emma Lenhart.

© 2015 Reef Magazine



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