We are told at a very young age that the world stops for not a single soul, that the clocks continue to tick and the earth continues to rotate no matter the amount of chaos you feel has consumed your entire being. As a child, I grew up with the phrase “The world does not revolve around you” constantly echoing throughout the hallways of my small city home. To this day I always find myself wondering if it is because of being taught those words at such a young age that I tend to repress my thoughts and problems out of fear that they would not be considered as problematic to others as they are to me. Rather than expressing myself I decided that it was best to bottle everything up (my ideas, opinions, fears, anxiety, emotions, feelings, problems, etc.) in order to obey, which is what I thought was the right thing to do at the time, my parent’s “The world does not revolve around you” rule. One of the many difficulties in doing this to myself so early in my childhood is that I accidentally created a habit that I unfortunately still continue to struggle with at the age of seventeen.
I am incredibly lucky that despite my horrible habit that I am able to feel safe enough to express myself through words. There is nothing that I want more than to live in a world filled with vibrant energy and beautiful souls who can happily be themselves. So here I am, the girl with the horrible habit, who wants to make it known that there is absolutely no need for you to feel suffocated in your own skin. Your problems are problems no matter how big or small and if it makes you feel better just by screaming them out at the top of your lungs in the middle of an empty field then by all means I encourage you to do that. Understand how dangerous it is putting your happiness into the hands of other people and learn that your self-worth depends on YOU and only you. Your ideas, opinions, fears, emotions, and problems are all entirely valid because they are what make you the person that you were yesterday, are today, and will be tomorrow. Recite the words “I am beautiful, I am worth it, and I matter” if you are ever feeling down about yourself. Recite them repeatedly until your head feels a tiny bit lighter and your shoulders are no longer slouching down. Tell yourself that the world does not revolve around you but because you are a part of the world your existence is important. Never make yourself feel small or inadequate because you know that someone out there has it a lot worse off than you do. Shower yourself with love and positivity and surround yourself with people who make you feel safe enough telling both your 2 A.M and 2 P.M thoughts to. In a time of turmoil, I recently had a close friend tell me “It is always good to be positive. The best way to do it is to be realistic and realize everything has negatives and to take them into account, but at the same time focus on the positives.” Please read that one, two, ten times and soak it all in. Everything in this world must have an equal balance and so for every negative there must also be a positive. Positive vibes are everywhere and although they are sometimes disrupted by negativity it does not mean that those vibes suddenly disappeared. Be calm, happy, and peaceful. The next time someone tells you “The world does not revolve around you” tilt your head back, laugh a little, and move on, because if the world really did revolve around you, it would be a hell of a lot of work trying to make it as perfect as you’d want it to be.