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Finding Yourself

We live in a fast world where we are forced to make decisions on a daily basis. We spend years in school learning math formulas and how dolphins reproduce yet we have no idea who we are. What we like. What we want to do. After years of studying and learning about mitochondria we need to decide what to do next, technically – find ourselves. It’s difficult and often scary because we truly don’t understand ourselves and people around us.

Well, first of all, don’t worry if you are in the middle of decision making, you’ll figure it out. The vital part, however, is listening to your own voice. I know that your voice can be muted by parents, siblings or teachers, but you are the one who will need to live with yourself and your major. So make sure that what you are studying after school is what you want to study. However, I strongly encourage to seek help and advice from older people, who have already gone through what you are going through right now.
Also, don’t be afraid to get out of your comfort zone. That’s how you see the world, that’s how you find yourself. Read as much as possible and read diverse books. Don’t stick to your favourite authors, try the one you’ve never heard about, it might steer you in the right direction. Watch films. Documentaries, based on true stories, anything you can relate to. See what the world looks in different places, think if you might want to go there. Go to festivals, meet people, ask what they are doing, sing your heart out, it might turn out that you’re pretty good at singing. Don’t forget about your passions. Maybe it’s painting? Dancing? Or are you really good at sports? There is no such thing as a useless major, study what you want to study, what you imagine yourself studying.
We live in the age of technology. You can meet people from around the globe in the click of a button. Use those technologies. Use different platforms. Nowadays you can record songs and create films on your laptop. Do that. You might find yourself enjoying it.
Above all, don’t be afraid to make mistakes. We are all heading into the unknown. None of it is sure or guaranteed. Don’t settle. If you find that the major you’ve chosen isn’t right for you, look for opportunities to change it. You might be able to change colleges, majors, teachers, friends. You won’t find out what you’re good at and what you enjoy doing unless you try it. So, don’t be afraid of choosing the wrong subject, try yourself, see where you fit.
And lastly, have fun. Don’t worry too much and realize that you are allowed to make mistakes. You are still learning, you are still growing, still finding yourself. And I truly believe that soon enough, you will.

Words by Goda K. // Photography by Johanna Mariel.

© 2015 Reef Magazine



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