So I had been trying to figure out what to write about for my column of the month and it was seriously one of the hardest things to do. It was hard to think of a topic to express myself about, something important. But then I thought: how difficult can it truly be to write about things that have a special significance to me? Therefore, today’s column is about change.
Change to me is something very complicated. Some people seek it, desire it. Others are afraid of it and some don’t even want it at all. I am someone who wants it or at least thinks she wants it. I believe that things are better elsewhere so I am open to moving, changing schools or even seeking new friends but sometimes it’s only when it happens that you realize that change maybe wasn’t the best thing.
For example; my parents wanted to move to get closer to the city for my brothers’ school and my dads’ work. We would be moving to a new city located an hour away (which doesn’t seem too bad) and I would have to change schools. I thought that this would be a great opportunity for me to experience change. It would be like a fresh start. But then it happened, and at first I loved it but the more time went by the more I missed my old school, my boyfriend and my friends. I felt like I was missing the best last two years of high school and I knew it was going to be a tough journey. I lost some of my friends, lost my boyfriend and people just started to forget about me. I was stuck. I wasn’t close enough with the girls from my new school and I was starting to lose contact with my friends from my old school. Not getting invited to parties or being forgotten had just become a usual for me. I was in the middle and I knew it was going to be really hard to go through this and I am still struggling to be honest but I have learnt to accept it, I try to look past the little things and appreciate the memories that I can create. I am stronger now.
Yes I suffered from the experience of change but I also grew, I grew as a person. I learned to be able to let go of some things that made me sad, I learned who my real friends were, I learned that sometimes people aren’t worth your time and that sometimes letting go is the best thing you can do.
The truth is, change can result in negative things but it can also result in wonderful experiences and journeys. It’s hard to take a chance for change because you never know the outcome. But if you never risk it, if you never change anything will you ever enrich yourself with different adventures? Will you ever learn from the events that occurred? Will you ever have stories to tell about your life changing decisions and how they made you a better person?
We have to weigh the pros and cons of the situation and make sure we are convinced that we want to do it because if we are not that is when you might regret it. That is when you’re going to want to go back. Yet, sometimes those changes can make you live and feel the most unexpected blissful happiness.
So to that I say, risk it, take a chance, live experiences, change things in your life and the worst thing that can happen is that you learn or grow from it. Remember that nothing will change if you don`t give change a chance.
Have a lovely day xoxo